The Real Secret to a Successful Adult XXX Date

The funny thing about the idea of going on an adult XXX date with http://www.adultdate.org is it really tests people’s ability to separate hype from reality. The hype is pretty straightforward. In fact, it’s self-explanatory. If you ask the typical red-blooded all-American male what their definition of an adult XXX date, it would seem like you’re listening to somebody recite the script of a traditional porn flick.

You know what I’m talking about. Somebody shows up, a random stranger; some weird, funky music comes up in the background with an amazing bass line; they get it on and everybody takes care of business; everybody’s happy; and they separate ways, never to see each other again. Mission accomplished. Well, this is the script according to most guys.

Unfortunately, there is a big divide between what we fantasize about, and how we actually behave. This plays out in all areas of your life. I’m not just talking about your fantasies about going out on an adult XXX date. Think about your college days. When you were in college, you were thinking, “Well, once I get my first real corporate job, I will be happy.” Well, once you get your first job and you ask yourself, “Well, once I make a hundred thousand dollars a year, I will be happy.” After a few years slaving away for the man, you find yourself in a corner office and you tell yourself, “You know what, once I get on that yacht and I travel around the world, I will be happy.” Sure enough, that happens, and guess what? You’re still not happy.

That’s the problem with the human experience. We have a tendency to define happiness away. This is really the only explanation why college students who were able to survive on $20,000 a year of scholarship money and eat only instant noodles can’t seem to get out of debt even though they’re making $120,000 a year with their second job after college. Do you see how this works? The more your income rises, the more your expenses rise. It’s as if you have this carrot dangling in front of you, and you just keep running after the carrot and the more you run, the more you sweat, you’re not any closer to that carrot.

What does this have to do with going out on an adult XXX date? Well, it has everything to do with it because it’s all about your expectations. If you have the right expectations, then a lot of your big goals – whether they involve your sex life, your love life, your emotional life, or your professional life – will become a reality. It’s just a question of allowing yourself to have a clear picture of what it is you really want.

Unfortunately, a lot of guys have such unrealistic ideas regarding going on a XXX date that their negative mindsets almost always end up sabotaging their success. They say the wrong the wrong things at the wrong time, and the wrong things happen. Are you sick and tired of that happening?

Well, you might want to check your mindset. Let me clue you in. Nobody’s entitled to success. Nobody’s entitled to free pussy. You have to work for it. You have to provide an experience. You have to make sure that their atmosphere is correct. You can’t just show up and expect things to happen. It doesn’t work that way. Sadly, that’s exactly the kind of mindset too many guys have, and they end up failing all too predictably.

If you don’t want to yet be another corpse in the highway of online dating, littered by so many failures, start with yourself. Ask yourself about your assumptions. Do you have the right mindset? Are you willing to put in the work? Are you willing to have a good time?

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